It was inevitable.
Once I acknowledged how much time has actually passed since I became “single
and fantastic”, I realized it was time to have the “dating” discussion with the
kids.
Let’s be honest, I have been dating on and off for the last
6 months, but the kids weren’t aware of it or prepared for it. There is no
reason the kids need to know about my dating life, until it matters. Actually, the only reason
we had the discussion is because their dad is openly dating. I came
to the decision that it’s time to start easing them into the idea that is it quite
possible that their mom isn’t going to stay permanently wedged on the couch.
Last night, while we were snuggled up in my bed, like we
always are, I casually brought up the subject of “dating.” I was concerned that I was going to be met
with resistance, tears and general defiance.
Surprisingly, both kids had pretty specific ideas for me and
my dating life and seemed pretty eager to let me in on their opinions. They must have discussed it previously,
because they had been prepared with quite the list of qualities, traits they
had in mind for me. It was actually
quite similar to my list I had blogged about way back in November.
Here is what my kids have in mind for me:
He can’t make you cry.
(Well not to hurt your feelings.
If you cry because he brings you flowers, that’s ok)
He can’t have a face full of piercings.
Tattoos are ok, but not scary ones.
He has to smell good.
He should like board games.
He will let you be yourself and won’t be worried when you
want to sit on the grass under a tree and meditate.
He will understand you are magic and not be afraid.
He will have kids so we have someone to play with. But not a baby because babies are boring.
He should be nice to us because he wants to be and not
pretend.
He shouldn’t have another girlfriend.
He shouldn’t text at the dinner table.
He won’t lie.
He can’t be a yeller.
You can’t get married again…ok maybe in 5 years.
He should be silly and fun but responsible.
And finally…my favourite…
His heart should be big and kind.
Those kids really are amazing.
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