What this fantastic, amazing, single girl has learned so far...

Ok…Over and over I have been told to “learn” from this experience.  Embrace it as an opportunity to grow.  In the months since becoming an amazing, fantastic independent woman, here are the things I have learned so far:

That it is never ok to eat chili before ballroom dancing.

Going to the movies alone is not only ok, but good for me.

I have the final say in where my life is going.

Online dating is terrifying, exciting and a little creepy all at the same time.

That my kids are going to be just fine.

Tea really does taste better out of a china cup.

I can change a wiper blade.

That cereal for dinner is just as good for as it is for breakfast.

That no matter how hard you try, you cannot make someone love you.

Actions always speak louder than words.

That cough medicine is a waste of money.

Broken hearts do mend.

That my kids think I am magic, so I am.

That I can say what I need to say.

That I have enough. 

The universe is always on my side because of what I put out there.

Super glue is forever.

An easy bake oven does not make edible food.

My friends love me regardless.

That money doesn’t buy class.

That it's ok to deny eating frosting right out of the can with a spoon.

That my house doesn’t have to look like the inside of a magazine…it’s comfortable and fun and sometimes messy and that’s ok.

No one will die if the laundry doesn’t get done right away.

That the dishes will wait until after the kids are in bed.

When you hear the words “uh oh” from the next room, it’s already too late.

Uncomfortable underware can ruin your whole day.

Focusing on the negative will only bring you negative.

Karma will happen.

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.

You can lie to anyone, but you can’t lie to yourself.

Always look in the oven before turning it on.

If you don’t take risks, nothing will change.


I am not all the things he said I was and I have the trail of dates to prove it.

Fear is a great motivator.

Time does heal...not completely, but it does.

Small town mentality will crush your soul if you let it.

Having the remote to myself isn’t as fun as I thought it would be.

Play doh is not dryer friendly.

That reading another chapter to the kids at night makes a difference.

That listening to my son sing “beat it” is extremely cute and annoying at the same time.

It’s better to be alone than in bad company.

If you are going to draw on the wall, make sure it’s behind the couch.

Lego men can be saved from the drain with tweezers and will power.

It’s ok to fall apart once in a while.

That the dog will only throw up on carpet when I am already late and about to leave the house.

That chocolate really can make a bad day better.

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Money earned by myself is much more satisfying.


That I blush waaaay to easily.


That a crisis will definitely show you who your friends are.

I can do whatever I want and not have to ask, justify or explain myself to anyone.

Forgiveness is hard.

A ¼” and ½” are a huge difference when cutting your son’s hair with clippers.  Oops...it will always grow back.

That I don’t want another “comfortable” relationship. 


That no matter what, I still believe in love.

The only thing worse than being in a bad relationship for years is being in a bad relationship for years plus one day.

Life is more fun when you stop caring what people think.

Stuff doesn’t make you happy.

No matter what, the kids will always miss the barf bucket when they are sick.

The light at the end of the tunnel is actually coming from me.  The closer I get, the brighter it becomes.

Who knew the mess of a girl I was a few months ago would turn out so smart :)